Setting Boundaries

Boundaries are like invisible fences you set up for yourself. It is the limits we set with other people, either personal or professional. It mark who we are and what we stand for: our beliefs, values, standard, emotions, thoughts, choices, decisions, and experiences. Making other people aware of our boundaries is essential to our health, well-being, and safety.

We all need personal boundaries. But sometimes, the fear that people might think that we close ourselves off from them is what's stopping us. However, we must also keep in mind that they must know when they have stepped over the line.

Identify the behaviors and actions that you find unacceptable. Let others know when they have misbehaved or disrespected you in any way. Do not be anxious to tell others when you need emotional or physical space. Learn to say 'no' firmly to something you do not want to. You can say it without giving an explanation and any emotional toll to the person you are saying it.

Likewise, people around us have their boundaries that we should also honor and respect. You can always ask and watch for cues or possible hints that someone might want more space. It all boils down to communication and being aware of other people's limits too.

Boundaries are here to help us and can be very important in how you lead your life and the quality of the relationship you want to have. The only way to set better boundaries is by practicing how to tell someone that they've crossed yours while maintaining your peace, dignity, and self-respect. Always remember to use your manners and be kind.